Confession: A Boy?

June 17, 2010 | Filed in: Baby,Motherhood,Pregnancy

I have a confession to make. But first off, what I’m about to say does not in any way mean I don’t love this little being growing inside of me.It doesn’t mean I wish for a different baby, it doesn’t mean anything except that I’m a worry wart. And since I like my blog to be real, I’ve got to dive into something that’s been consuming my thoughts lately.

So here it is: I’m struggling with the idea of having a boy.

Not because I don’t want a boy or could never love a boy, but because I don’t know what to do with a boy. Cars, action figure posters plastered on the wall, all that extra energy? And more sports in my life(ah!). It’s not my thing. I can handle this girl stuff Savannah gets into, because, well, I am a girly-girl myself. I can relate to her. A boy? It’s tough.

I’m scared that I won’t bond with a boy. Sure, it will be fine while he is an infant and I can enjoy all the snuggles and nursing that I did with Savannah, but what about when he gets older? I’m afraid of losing touch with him, not knowing what questions to ask to get to know him as he grows or what’s going on in his life. I keep thinking about my own brother, we were close when he was a baby and then he turned 3 or 4, when those boy interests and qualities really started to come out and we grew apart. My sister on the other hand, we only grow closer as the years go by. And in truth, I want that for Savannah. I want her to have a sister to bond with, to go through life with and maybe have a built in best friend. Idealized dream? Yes. I realize even if I have two girls it doesn’t guarantee they would even get a long! But I can dream.

I also always thought I’d have all girls. Mark thought the same thing, since his desire to have a boy is intense and he thought he wouldn’t get his way or something. And in truth, after having 2 girls, I just feel like a “girl momma.” I never saw myself having a boy. How is it different? Can I make the adjustment?

But, I can tell you as soon as I saw this little face on the screen, I fell in love with him even more and my worries practically are diminished already. Who couldn’t love this little guy? It comes down to this: I tend to worry over nothing, especially fear of the “unknown.” Everything will be fine, right? Maybe just a little different.

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I know exactly how you feel. I was so positive I would have a girl, because, well, that’s what I wanted. And when I found out that my little “girl” wasn’t a girl, I have to say I was actually a little disappointed. But I still loved him and, like you, I didn’t wish for a different baby.

In the past 3 1/2 months of on-hand experience with my baby boy, I’ve realized that boys are easier. Seriously, I’m not even kidding. I’ve been around friend’s/family’s little girl babies, and even as infants, they are totally over-dramatic. Nothing about that with a boy. They’re way more laid back, and as for him bonding with Savannah, I have one brother, and we are very close, even though we are on opposite ends of the spectrum, he’s a manly man, and I’m a total girly girl. Brothers are good to have, totally protective of their sisters, and can always make them laugh. Don’t worry so much! (: You’ll be amazed at how much fun they are.

And as for when they get older? Get ‘em a tonka truck and a patch of dirt to play in, and they’ll be amused for hours.

Plus, little boy shorts and polos are totally cute. (:

I felt the same way when I found out I was having a boy. I grew up with a sister and I already had a daughter so I was used to girls!

My son is about to turn 7 and I LOVE having a son. He is a momma’s boy and such a little gentleman.

I also have to agree with the above commenter who says boys are easier. I have the same experience. My daughter is 10 and, while I love her to pieces, it seems like girls have so much more drama than boys. With my daughter, I worry more about peer pressure, and bullying.

You will be fine! I have found that I enjoy doing boy things. I play outside with him, I play video games, we play with action figures together. :)

I just KNEW my first would be a girl and when they told us at the ultrasound that it would be a boy….I cried. I had already picked a girl’s name, didn’t want a boy and had no clue what I would do.
But then we had Paul and my mindset completely changed. I LOVE having boys – they are sooooo much fun and really are facinated by nothing more than a matchbox car LOL! You will do wonderfully – and the boys stay mommy’s boys longer than you may think ;-)

It will be fine. My brother and I are close although we live totally different lifestyles! We haven’t had a boy in our family since ?? I was in grade school! So I think, as you do, how to handle him. I am sure he will be intelligent and inquisitive like Savannah, he’ll be creative and hopefully athletic for Mark’s sake! Savannah is agile and she could end up playing sports too! Stop worrying!!

When I found out our first was a boy I was terrified, I had NO idea what to do with a boy. I was a total girly girl and just, yeah… but it all just sort of happens. We are on our 3rd boy now and they are SO much fun!! Their energy is catching and they are so loving and cuddly and happy and just, amazing little people :D You will be an awesome boy mama!!!

My 2nd is a boy… and I too was a little worried, but I gotta tell ya… There is just SOMETHING about these little men that pulls at a Momma’s heart in a way that little girls never do!
My oldest DD & I have a FABULOUS relationship & she is SO wonderful, but I’m not gonna lie, there’s just something *different* (NOT better, mind you) about the love between a Mother & her son….

Boys. Are. Awesome! All your worries will prove to be unfounded, I promise. This little man will just open up a whole new world to you as a parent, and the relationship between him and his big sister will teach them both so much. I’ve got three boys and one girl and even though I wish sometimes she had a sister I know that these three brothers are really EXACTLY what she needs!

I love having a boy. The only I DONT love about it is… potty training is a whore. He’s 5 and refuses to use it. And I am… just lost. And I give up.

Other then that, boys are great. xD

After three girls – we found out we were having a boy. I felt the EXACT same way. But, let me tell you – once he was born – I was immediately in LOVE with him.

Now I have five boys. YUP. FIVE. And I adore each one of them more then I have words to express. I am still girly. I still don’t get them most of the time – but Oh how I love them!

Boys are amazing. And, actually, my boys potty trained before all of the girls their ages. It’s hit or miss on that subject.

You’ll be fine! :)

I know exactly how you feel. I was a nanny and caretaker and almost always had girls for 16 years before my first child was born. Who happened to be a boy. I cried for 2 weeks after I found out because I had NO idea about boys. He was the easiest baby and toddler till he hit 3. My daughter who came 2 years later was a hard baby (reflux/colic) for 2 years. He was potty trained by 4 (which is pretty normal for boys) one day woke up and was done. He does have more energy but he is a love bug and very caring. I am excited for you that you have one of each now. It really sounds silly but having a boy and girl feels kind of complete in our lives and I have no doubt that once you meet your little man he will be wrapped around your finger :)

I’m sure you will do perfectly with a boy!
I’m definitely a girly-girl as well, but I have to say, my brothers are two of my very best friends. We haven’t *always* gotten along, but I don’t think any siblings have a flawless relationship. Brothers are amazing and I bet Savannah and your little guy will grow to have a wonderful relationship.
Anything ‘different’ tends to be a little worrisome, and after you having 2 girls, it’s normal to think that girls are easier to handle and relate to. Boys are just as much fun :o) and I’m sure you’ll be a wonderful ‘boy momma’ as well!

Little boys are awesome! I promise, it’s not as hard as it sounds! They’re full of energy, but they’re also completely content using that energy on spinning in circles to “ring around the rosie”. Mega Blocks keep him entertained for a long time, and they are most always a mama’s boy. I know Tubs is my mama’s boy and he melts my heart about 50 times a day! I would not change having a boy for anything!

Boys love their mommies. Period. You will never love another man like you will love your son, they are named that becuase they are sunshine on Earth!
Congratulations!!!!

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