I am completely frustrated in my Children’s Adoption Book search. I did some research online, took advice from all your comments, had a good list going but I’m still left empty handed. I’d prefer not to buy a book online because I want to be able to read it first to see if it “fits” our story, the message that I’d like to send Kaylee (i.e. I made the decision out of love), if it even talks about birth parents, etc. But? When I go to a book store (or the library)? There is hardly anything. Even at the Christian book store there was one book on adoption for kids. ONE. And it sucked.
Is it just me, or does this seem odd? Do people think that kids are rarely adopted? Do people think that it’s a hush-hush situation? Don’t kids want to hear about how loved they are through adoption? Don’t they have questions that need answered?
I know there are books out there (maybe even good ones) but they are NOT easy to find, and that’s the issue I have. The one book I really want to read is absolutely no where to be found in stores or online, “Pugnose Has Two Special Families” by Karis Kruzel. Ugh, Ugh, Ugh.
The good news is that I will be getting a copy of “Never, Never, Never, Will She Stop Loving You” by Jolene Durrant thanks to the wonderful Coley at Birth Mom Buds. Thanks, Coley :-) At least I have a back up.
And maybe I should order “Megan’s Birthday Tree” by Laurie Lears, but is it too old for a 4 year old right now? I could save it for later, I guess? Gah. I just wish I could read things first!
I’m at a loss, this is really frustrating me. Sure, her new PJ’s I got her will be cute and practical, but I wanted something a bit more meaningful than that. This world needs to get with the program.
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I saw this http://www.adoptshoppe.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWPROD&ProdID=78 and it seemed to tell both sides of adoption… but im not sure if that is what you are looking for … and i found this list of books http://www.parents.com/family-life/adoption/101/childrens-books-about-adoption/
I hope you can find something!
By Liz on 05.24.08 8:03 pm | Permalink
Have you considered making her a book through Lulu or Blurb? You could include pictures of you as a kid, pictures of your pregnancy, the photos of the birth and of her growing up. If you make it very “Once upon a time, a baby was coming, and she deserved to be loved by not only the woman who would give birth to her, but also by a family who had been praying for her…” then you can make it very personal, while also making it easily understood by K. I’ve made a couple books through Blurb and have been really impressed both with the ease in using their templates but also with the finished product.
By ivymae on 05.24.08 8:26 pm | Permalink
I agree, the lack of availability is frustrating. I like to be able to look through books before purchasing, too. And it would be nice if they just out in bookstores and libraries like other books so that the world could see that adoption is just another part of some people’s stories.
I think the only place to order “Pugnose” is through Open Adoption Insight (http://www.openadoptioninsight.org/books_and_tapes.htm#Children's%20Books). That’s where I got our copy.
I’d say four is the bottom end of the age range for “Megan’s Birthday Tree.” It has a couple paragraphs of text per page.
One last one that really captures the message you’re hoping to send is “The Tummy Mummy.” (http://www.amazon.com/Tummy-Mummy-Michelle-Madrid-Branch/dp/0974744301) I actually did see it an independent bookstore once, if you can believe that!
By Heather.PNR on 05.24.08 10:19 pm | Permalink
I know my agency has a bookstore and I know they used to have Pugnose. http://www.adoptionoptions.com/bookstore.html You can request a book list.
By Tara on 05.24.08 11:01 pm | Permalink
Oh another place to look is Tapestry. http://www.tapestrybooks.com/
I can’t find Pugnose, but there are a few others that look interesting.
By Tara on 05.24.08 11:03 pm | Permalink
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